The Blind Spot of Reality
We like to think of “real” as something objective — solid, measurable, and agreed upon. But the truth is, even the so-called objective world is not conclusive. Reality, as we live it, is partly built on shared imagination. 1. The Illusion of Agreement Take color, for example.We agree that this object is red or yellow. …
The Accuracy of Understanding
We often believe that communication happens through words. But real communication is the invisible distance between what one means and what the other understands. If we could measure it, understanding might look something like this: Understanding (%) = How close the listener’s perception is to the speaker’s true intent. When you say something and the …
“Would You Change It?”
Once, I asked my son: Me:“Do you remember when you were in elementary school in Ajax, Canada?You were bullied by an older kid who kicked your ball far away at the end of recess.You ran after it, struggled to bring it back, and fell on the ground crying.” Son:“Yeah, I remember.” Me:“If you could go …
Speaking to Myself vs. Speaking to Others
We speak for many reasons. Sometimes to persuade, sometimes to comfort, sometimes simply to hear our own thoughts out loud. But have you ever noticed the difference between saying what you want to yourself and saying what you want to others? When We Speak to Ourselves Telling myself what I want is a way of …
What If We Saw More Than We Do?
One question I was asked while having conversation with a customer “What if we allow all surroundings into our brain? Can we handle it?” We actually live our lives through filters. Our senses aren’t windows to reality — they’re gatekeepers, due to we won’t be able to manage all. See vision. What we see is …