I often write about living authentically, about what it means to live as myself. I even coach others, telling them that “living as yourself means this or that.”
But every time I return to myself, I realize something uncomfortable:
I’ve been lying.
There has never been a fixed formula like Me = A. No human being in history has lived according to such an equation. If someone claims otherwise, I’d like to see the evidence.
Everyone I know has once been different from who they are today, and will change again tomorrow.
The Futility of Defining “I Am This Person”
We cling to definitions:
“This is who I am.”
“This is my nature.”
But what use are they?
Life flows. Experiences accumulate. Time itself is a constant current. To try to capture “me” in a single definition is not clarity—it’s confinement. It’s a way of torturing ourselves with something static, when in fact we are always in motion.
The Only Truth
It is meaningless to reduce ourselves to a fixed formula.
The truth is simpler, and more liberating:
- The “me” of the past is not the “me” of the present.
- The “me” of the future will not be the “me” of today.
Change is not a flaw—it’s the essence of being alive.
So maybe the only truth is this:
I am not who I was, and I will not be who I am now.
That alone is enough.
💬 What do you think? Is it possible that our real freedom begins only when we stop trying to define ourselves once and for all?
